I liked challenging people and making them uncomfortable. That’s what leads to introspection and that’s what leads to improvement. You could say I dared people to be their best selves.
–– Kobe Bryant, Basketball Great
I was speaking to about 100 leaders in California last year and urged the women in the audience to be more willing to step up for opportunities, as the guys do. A woman senior leader asked me whether I really believed that women don’t take enough risk for opportunities.
From her smile I could read she was throwing me a softball challenge and wanted me to elaborate. I gave an example of a job that may be two levels up. In my experience a woman will give an honest assessment of her strengths and weaknesses and might conclude that she might be 80 percent ready. A dude might say, “I’ve got this.”
It was a laugh line, but true. It’s a generalization so it’s not 100 percent, but it’s a real issue.
Youngest Female CEO
With this in mind, I was taken by an interview on CNBC last week with Corie Barry, who in June became Best Buy’s first female chief executive.
At 44 years old, Barry is the youngest woman CEO in the Fortune 100, and one of only 27 female CEOs in the S&P 500, according to Catalyst.
In the interview, Barry gave other women in business the advice to “make yourself uncomfortable, and to take sometimes, the jobs no one else wants.”
In some 20 years at the consumer electronics retailer, Barry had 15 jobs, including president of Geek Squad Services and chief financial officer.
Growing your skill set
“My career path is anything but linear,” she said. “I spent time in finance. I spent time actually living and working in the field in retail. I spent time running services. I started our strategic growth office. I’ve had the chance to run our technology teams. The goal for me…is about breadth and about understanding and growing that skill set as much as possible.”
Barry’s message to other women is to “speak up with the point of view in the room that may not be popular. Have those uncomfortable moments. Because my strong personal belief is it is those moments that cause you to grow the most yourself, but that also differentiate you the most in your career.”
She says history and studies show that on the whole women will wait until they are “perfectly ready” for the next role, but she said it more broadly applies to all genders.
Make yourself uncomfortable
“People want this level of confidence that frankly just isn’t possible in business, which is why I say, start with making yourself uncomfortable because somewhere in here you’re going to have to be willing to put yourself into a space that you don’t quite feel ready to fill and then leverage all the resources around you to help you be successful.”
I have a close family member who was a Navy SEAL. He introduced me to one of their most useful training phrases, “Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.”
It’s what I tell all of my clients. Your most valuable growth happens just outside of your comfort zone. With the magnitude of change in business and the world, learning to be comfortable with discomfort may be your most important skill.
How about you?
Think about it: What opportunities have you let pass by because you didn’t feel “perfectly ready”?
Start considering how you can say “yes” to discomfort in your business and personal lives.
Your key to success may well be feeling comfortable with discomfort.
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